A fulfilling sexual relationship can be elusive
In what we might think of as a liberated era where more information about human sexuality and its expression, from academic studies and self-help literature to erotica and pornography, is freely available, one would think that the psychosexual issues, which characterised early psychotherapy, would have all but disappeared. We should all be living our sexuality in fulfilling and joyful relationships.
It would be great if this were true, but, although we are more informed about, and even pre-occupied with, sexuality and its different forms of expression, living creatively in fulfilling sexual relationships seems to elude many people and anxiety about sex seems to be increasing if anything.
Information/knowledge is clearly not the whole answer. Nor, although it must be acknowledged that our current sexual freedoms aren’t Utopian, do the hard won freedoms we enjoy in Western Europe lead to the kind of fulfilment that we might expect. A return to a more repressive approach to sexuality, as advocated by the patriarchal religions and societies isn’t likely to lead to fulfilment either.
We can’t put the genie back in the bottle. Information about our sexuality together with a comparative freedom as regards its experience and expression are important and provide a background, or framework, within which fulfilling sexual relationships can develop, but there’s something missing. Actually, there’s a lot missing and there are no easy solutions, but it is important to recognise the important role of psychosexual therapy and education in helping men and women of all ages, orientations and cultures find the fulfilment that is their birthright.
The UK Centre for Psychosexual Therapy and Education has been founded with the purpose of supporting counsellors, psychotherapists and educators in the work of enabling men and women of all ages to experience and express their sexuality with awareness, creativity and fulfilment. It will also offer therapeutic support to members of the public in the form of workshops, lectures and individual therapy sessions.